Amy Patterson – “My Thoughts”
Valentine’s Day is Friday! And what a sweet, fun, lovely day it is – Am I right?
This is a holiday I’ve enjoyed for many years, regardless of my marital status. Many people argue that those in a relationship shouldn’t have to have a national holiday to tell them to express their love for one another, and I agree, to an extent.
Who cares if Valentine’s Day is commercialized and blown out of proportion? If you don’t like or agree with it, don’t participate; don’t buy the chocolates and stuffed animals; don’t pay in to the conglomerates.
I think we’re all mature enough to realize that the holiday is not designed to be the sole day each year that you show the one you love how much they mean to you. That should be a 24/7, 365 kind of thing. But tell me, what does it hurt to have a day set aside for this purpose? I say it hurts very little.
Plus, the ones among us who tend to forget other special occasions have the opportunity to redeem themselves, right? I mean, it’s printed right on the calendar, there are weeks’ worth of TV and radio commercials about it, so it would be pretty hard to overlook…
So, now that we’ve established Valentine’s Day is okay, what’s next? What do you do to celebrate the most excellent of lovey-dovey days?
I say pull out all the stops!
No, you don’t have to spend an entire paycheck on diamonds and five-star dinners, but if you can, go for it. It’s one day a year; it won’t break you.
Here’s my thought process: I know a certain fella’ who is fairly stoic. He hides his emotions like a criminal. What better a Valentine’s Day gift for his “someone special” than a love letter, where on this one special day he tells this person what a special place they have in his heart? Sounds pretty good to me. And it’s cheap!
On the flip side, what about the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve? Conversations with her significant other may be plagued with sensitivity and a “me, me, me” attitude. I would assume the man in her life might enjoy an occasional break from the chick-flick that is his life.
For him, maybe she should take a break from Valentine’s Day tradition and do something void of red velvet, sequin hearts, and violin music. A day at the go-cart track, weekend of fly fishing, feast of hot wings, or a trip to see the newest action movie in 3D, for example!
I think you’d be hard pressed to find a guy who wouldn’t enjoy an escape from the norm in this case.
Even if creative thinking isn’t your deal, you can still enjoy the love-it or hate-it holiday. Just do something that rings true to your relationship in particular. If you’re bothering to celebrate the holiday at all, you should know enough about yourselves to be able to find a date(-ish) that you’ll both like.
Men, don’t dread Feb. 14. It’s not scary and it doesn’t have to suck. If your lady friend can’t follow the concept of thinking outside of the traditional V-Day box and grasp your creative ideas, she’s not the girl for you anyways.
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about Russell Stover, Gatz teddy bears, and romantic dinners. The day should be about love, which means something a little different to everyone. Break out of your comfort zone and show your special someone that your heart really is theirs, by doing something for them; something they would enjoy.
After writing this week’s stories about our awesome local couples celebrating their various anniversary milestones, I realized each one of them presented one thing in particular: a relationship is not 50/50, like many of us may think; it’s 100/100. Each person involved has to give 100 percent of themselves.
While laying everything on the table is scary and a hard thing to do for many of us, that’s exactly what love means: nothing is left behind. There is no part of yourself that you haven’t exposed to this other person. If they love and accept all of these crazy parts of you, then they’re probably (just a hunch) in it for the long haul. In that case, they deserve the same from you.
Editor’s note: As usual, please excuse my ramblings. I know some of you will be disappointed the above isn’t a rant of some sort, but it’s about time I get in the mood for the most romantic day of the calendar year, even if I’ll be spending it in the BGHS gymnasium.